Maybe I am treading on thin ice when I bring up this topic, but I believe it is one that needs to be addressed. In episode 9 of season 4 of The Game, Brittany demonstrates extremely rebellious behavior. Many individuals were probably sitting and looking at their television screens saying how they would beat her, slap her, send her back to her mom, send her to boarding school, or whatever their form of discipline is. My question is, what happens when your child looks at you and says it's because of the separation or divorce of her parents? What happens when he or she says it has affected her and caused them to act out?
I believe a lot of children are hurt, but I don't think it necessarily causes them to be rebellious. Yes, there is the longing for that other parent, but I think it's nothing but an excuse that they use to play on their parent's feelings to make them feel horrible and feel like they have to compensate for that separation by reducing the severity of discipline or eliminating it all together. Teenagers are especially able to use this excuse because they generally understand better than younger children.
To avoid this situation I think it is important for parents to talk to their children and tell them how much they love them. Make them feel more secure by explaining that both parents will take care of them, but both will not be in the same house. Explain what each of the parent's roles will be and be sensitive to the child's feelings. When the child cries or asks for that other parent, don't just brush it off. Talk to them and help them cope.
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Until next time....
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